A number of years ago, friends of mine adopted a child from an Eastern European country. Tragically, their son had been in an orphanage for seven years. During those years he had experienced horrific trauma, abandonment, deprivation, and abuse.
They felt that counseling and therapy were unbiblical, and that the Bible was sufficient for all things. I agree with them. However, I still seek treatment for medical needs, and early childhood trauma is accompanied by a biochemical assault to the body (the brain).
Healing from PTSD is not a matter of obedience to the Bible, determination, or fortitude–especially for a child.
According to an article by Richard Dymond in the Bradenton Herald, up to 15% of the state’s adoptions end in dissolution, largely because of the effects of early childhood trauma. As an example, one adoptive couple had experienced such emotionally devastating experiences, that they had nothing positive to say about their adoptive child. They had been unprepared for the realities of bringing a traumatized child into their home. He was negatively impacting their other children. He threw things and broke things. He became physically violent and intimidated other kids at school.
Dymond reports that “after the spike in dissolutions, The Sarasota YMCA — Safe Children Coalition reached out to create a Manatee County program to prevent children from being returned in the future. They are turning to the Manatee County Commission for funding help from the dedicated property tax millage for children’s services for the adoption preservation program, which will help provide counseling to troubled families.
“A child can suffer trauma if it is laying in its crib and there is a violent episode in the next room, Smith said.
“‘I think the problem in adoptions is these kids have broken connections,’ Smith said. ‘Early trauma is how their brains are wired. They do not operate from a foundation of secure parents who love them.'”
“Smith asked the adoptive mother and father of the 7-year-old boy about their parenting style.
“‘They said they were sending him to his bedroom when he was acting out. I told them: You send him to his bedroom and his little brain says rejection. We need him to connect with you. Smith said. ‘What I would have loved the mother to say to him was: ‘You are having a nice time not being nice to your brother. I want you to hang out with me for awhile so we can figure out how to change that.'”
“While the Safe Children’s Coalition offers pre-adoption classes to prevent children from being returned, parents don’t always realize they may need continued classes and counseling after the children settle into their homes.”
If you know someone struggling with the realities of adoption-related trauma, they can learn more from my friend Ellen Stumbo, an adoptive parent who has struggled through these issues. I also suggest they seek help from a professional who understands childhood trauma–Dr. Beth Robinson.
Read more here: http://www.bradenton.com/2015/03/22/5706832/adoptions-returned-bradenton.html#storylink=cpy